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Employees Cheating on Expense Claims - Indicative of a Much Larger Problem?

Employees Cheating on Expense Claims - Indicative of a Much Larger Problem

An increasing epidemic in the current financial climate, the issue of employees cheating on business expense claims is becoming a huge worry in the corporate world. A survey published by Personnel Today in late 2007 found that more than one third of employees admitted to cheating on business expense claims - with some even doubling the value of the original expense.

What Makes a Normally Moral Person Effectively Commit an Act of Fraud?

Firstly, the amount being added on to expense claims is typically fairly low. Most employees believe that adding a small monetary figure to expense claims will go unnoticed and also have very little impact on their employer’s bottom line. If it won’t make much of a difference, then why not tweak the figures in their favour?

Secondly, most employees simply don’t believe they’re being paid what they actually deserve. The art of fiddling business expenses is seen as an easy means of supplementing income and taking what’s ‘owed to them’.

Finally, times are hard and morale is low. The credit crunch is hitting employees hard - the price of products and services seem to be increasing at an exponential rate to salaries - and employees view cheating expenses as a quick way of reducing the burden on their bank balance. The person cheating on their expenses views the organisation as having the resources to cope with the small differences they apply - whereas the difference to them is far greater.

Examples of Expense Claim Cheating

What Kinds of Techniques are Employees using to Illegally Claim Expenses?

  • Consistently submitting false claims for values lower than those requiring documentary evidence (e.g. £15 on a lunch/meal).
  • Submitting claims over and above allowed entitlements by splitting individual expenses into multiple claims.
  • Submitting claims for personal items under the guise of corporate expenses.
  • How Does This Impact the Employer?

    The effect of one employee liberally cheating on their expenses will often go unnoticed and have little effect on the employer - However, once others see that a colleague is ‘getting away with it’ it can foster an environment where multiple employees undertake the same techniques (as this would only be ‘fair’ on them). Once a culture of illegal claims becomes engrained throughout the organisation, before the employer knows it the expense bill has become hugely inflated and they have a cost on their hands that hasn’t been either anticipated or budgeted for.

    Addressing the Issue

    Simple steps can be taken to ensure the issue of expense fraud never rears its head. Modern-day technology, such as expense management systems, can force all employees to adhere to the same system of claims, with in-built limits, process and managerial/finance approval. Instances of false claims can be flagged up using pre-defined rule-sets. Employers can then enforce a zero-tolerance policy by addressing any examples of expense fiddling through standard expense management reporting.

Nokia N96 Review

Nokia and Sony Ericsson Themes The finnish giants new Nokia N96 is one beast of a smart phone even by today’s standards. Most mobiles wished they were as feature packed, and had other manufacture’s scrambling to mimic its features. I’m going break down this mobile, and basically fill you in why this mobile should be in your pocket and not in the store window still.

Let’s start with the apparent, it’s form. The N96 is a candy bar slider design, having a hidden keypad, and also sliding it in the opposite direction shows a hidden media keyed key pad. So right from the start this mobile has 2 functions covered, phone calls and media playback, very easily accessed.

It’s very similar to the Nokia n95 in many ways and it also uses the same OS and thus N95 themes will work on the N96. So you’ll not be short of themes as there’s already thousands available.

The screen on this mobile is gorgeous, as it displays 16 million colors. Measuring in at 2.8”, its QVGA LCD TFT screen has a resolution of 240×320 pixels. So basically anything your doing on this mobile is going to be bright, vivid, and colorful. This is great for reading email, surfing the net, watching videos, and making it a real pleasure. Check out mmcforums where you can get Themes for N96 to further make use of the beautiful screen.

Now I’ll point out some of the best features we come to expect from a Nokia smart phone.

Its camera is a 5MP with dual LED flash. The camera is auto focus and auto correction enabled, and has a Carl Zeis Optics Tessar Lens. You can record video at 30fps, and the flash for the mobile doubles a light when recording video. Both camera and video mode offer a lot of options to set like brightness, color, zoom, etc making it a real rival to a standalone digital camera.

The N96 has AGPS on board as well. AGPS means Assisted Global Positioning Software. What that means it has regular GPS but is can pull map data, nearby information about local shops, rest areas, etc using your cellular data or WIfI connection. You can also install familiar GPS software on the N96 as well, like Garmin or TomTom. With its camera, you will also be able to Geo-Tag your photos with the physical location of where you snapped the photo at.

Wifi is also present on the Nokia N96. This feature really comes in handy if you are in an area with bad cellular reception, and you need to check your email, surf the web, or check in on a live news feed on your mobile. Some applications require a mobile broadband connection, this also helps out when you are not a 3G area as well. The phone’s speakers produce a beautiful sound with a great deal of clarity, listening to mp3’s, ringtones and movies is a pleasure. The dual slider with multimedia keys makes listening to Mp3’s an absolute pleasure.

Now to the interface, Series 60 3rd Edition Feature Pack 2. So it’s a smart phone at its core, through and through. Users can keep calendar events, notes, and reminders active on it, to keep them on a schedule. Using active standby on the home screen, lets you easily get to your most used features or apps in a snap. With 16GB of flash memory built in to the mobile, you will have plenty of space to fit your photos, videos, and saved multimedia messages without worry about having to remove something to make room for more. Nokia offers the Nokia PC Suite software for your PC or Mac, that lets you sync personal information like calendar events, notes, and also sync music and movies to and from your device. You can also back up your SMS and MMS messages for safe keeping, or to free up space on your mobile.

The N96 may be pricy but once you realize what all its capable of doing, and how many devices it can replace in your pocket or backpack, it doesn’t seem as bad as one might think. If you are looking for a one-in-one gadget that happens to be a mobile, I highly recommend the Nokia N96 with 2 thumbs way up!

Marriage is Reality TV; So Wonderful as Long as You Can Edit Everything Out

So Wonderful as Long as You Can Edit Everything Out

Isn’t Two years ago we found out Bob had lymphoma. When I was first told, a thousand thoughts bounced around in my head. How would Bob handle this? How could I tell our daughters? Who could I turn to for advice? Which hospital? Which doctor? Not once did I allow myself to think too far into the future. I kept my questions to now, tomorrow, next week. I’ve always kept calm in a crisis. Okay, we have a problem. How can we solve it? What’s next? I couldn’t allow the ramifications of what I had just heard into my thoughts, not even a little. One step at a time.

Bob’s reaction was what I expected. He’d been brought up by worriers. He broke down. His reaction was, “What I always feared has happened.” I felt so helpless. I saw his pain. I wanted to make everything better. I said I understood, but I really didn’t. I wondered how I would have reacted had it been me. I wanted him to be strong, to say, “We’ll fight this together,” just like in the movies.

Telling the girls was hard. Bob couldn’t. It was up to me. They took it badly. I had to be strong so they could lean on me. I called on my stoic upbringing-keep your guard up, hold your feelings in. If I broke down, it would have been too much for them to bear.

Norma, a close friend who had intestinal cancer the year before, recommended books by Bernie Siegel and other positive thinkers and relaxation tapes. They helped me. They reaffirmed my belief in positive thinking, never allowing the inner thoughts, the negative ones, to surface. Bob tried but finally rejected this approach. Imagery, affirmations-I put notes all over the house. He laughed at me kindly and let me “do my thing.” He even appreciated my efforts.

There were extra hugs and kisses, hand squeezing and holding, looks of love, sympathy, compassion. Not many words were exchanged. Was it that they weren’t needed or that they couldn’t be said? Bob took care of wills, insurance, stocks, and so forth. We talked about them matter-of-factly, never admitting why we were suddenly doing this.

Bob had a curable type of lymphoma. The odds were good. I maintained my positive outlook. He was hospitalized for his first treatment so his reactions could be monitored. Both girls were there. How important family is at these times! I still felt I had to keep up the facade, to play the role of martyr-everything will be all right. It was so hard to see the person I love, whom I’ve spent so much of my life with, helpless, weak, and frightened.

We received wonderful support from friends and family. The phone never stopped ringing. Bob spoke to everyone and cried each time. He seemed to like the attention. Did he enjoy the sympathy? The less I talked, the better I liked it. There was a point when I didn’t want to answer the phone. I wanted to scream, “Enough! How many times can you talk about it? Why go over it again and again? Stop wallowing and get on with it!” I had to stop myself. He was fighting for his life. How dare I tell him how to do it?

There were two Bobs-the one I saw and the brave face he put on for everyone else. He’d leave for work (part time) feeling cranky and tired and impatient, only to appear at the office cheerful and brave. I’d get calls telling me how wonderfully he was accepting this awful thing. To me he was grumpy, sad, angry, and at times unkind. We all have different faces for different places. I know that. But why couldn’t he try on that happy face for me?

He underwent sixteen weeks of chemotherapy as an outpatient. Those days were awful. One of the medications Bob was taking didn’t allow him to sleep, so I didn’t sleep. He managed to make enough noise to wake me and keep me up. His pills were all over the house. He jumped and yelled if I moved them. I confided in our daughter, who urged us to join a support group. Bob refused. He couldn’t face being with other cancer patients. Why couldn’t I understand? He was the one who had this awful sickness. What was I so mad about?

Halfway into Bob’s treatment, I had an accident.

Coming out of a driveway, I misjudged the speed of an oncoming car. My car was totaled. A few inches more and I, too, would have been totaled. How did this happen? Too much on my mind, overworked, overtired, and stressed out. In all the time of Bob’s illness, and even to this day, only two people have asked how I was. People wait until Bob leaves the room and whisper, “How’s he doing? He seems to be handling it so well.” The accident was my way of saying, “Here I am, look at me, I need attention too.” Fortunately, no one was hurt. I realized I couldn’t go on like that. Bob and I talked and talked about me, the things I was holding inside. We both knew we needed help. We had to face our mortality. We began to see a therapist.

I found a support group for spouses and caregivers of cancer patients. Thank heaven for those wonderful people. It was a small group, some men, mostly women. We could honestly tell each other how we felt. I could finally be open about my feelings. I felt safe there.

The sixteen weeks of chemo finally ended and all of the tests came back okay. He gained weight and began to feel like himself again. Did we go back in time to where and who we were before this thing? No. He says cancer is always on his mind. Every time he goes for a checkup he becomes withdrawn, angry. I understand. Every ache and pain makes him think the cancer has returned.

Has he changed? Yes. So have I. His feelings about life are different, his sense of what’s really important. I thought he’d take better care of himself. Instead he overeats. He loves good food but doesn’t exercise. He spends more money than he should. Doesn’t he care about me, about us? I’m tired of nagging. I’ve become more independent. Are we closer now? Sometimes I think so, sometimes I’m not sure. We sti1llove each other, but this experience didn’t deepen our love, which makes me sad.

How wonderfully romantic the storybook version is. In reality it doesn’t happen that way.

It hasn’t always been easy. There were times I felt trapped. There was never a time, however, when I wanted to get out of the trap. They say love grows stronger when two people have shared trials and tribulations, and I agree. I love you more now than I did when we were twenty. I love you more because I know you better, and you know me more than I know myself. Our love is easy. I know I can go off the deep end and you won’t leave me. You’ll eventually point out my failings, but you won’t leave. That’s comforting. You’ve made our home a nice place to be, you’ve made our children nice people, and you’ve even made me nicer.

It eventually dawned on me that you were trapped as well. We were trapped together, and we could escape together. And we have. So I’m glad I’m trapped. I love you.

Dating Advice

Language of Love

Learning the Language of Love

The Internet has done more to bring people of different cultures together than any means previously available to the citizens of Earth. The Net gives us the impression that the world is shrinking, yet it isn’t. There may still thousands of miles to travel to meet your new acquaintance face to face. As air travel grows ever more expensive and difficult, one might want to make absolutely sure that the trip is going to be worth the effort before traversing the globe to get to know someone a bit better.

Instant messaging and emailing your way to true romance is a challenging endeavor. In the good old days you could tell something about another person while listening to their voice on the telephone, or looking deep into their eyes over coffee. In the world of Internet romance, you may get to have an occasional telephone conversation, or exchange pictures of yourselves with one another, but building a lasting bond on a computer keyboard is close to impossible.

The process of Internet romance is further complicated if there are language differences between you and your new love interest, or if time zones prohibit you from chatting frequently with one another. You and your new friend may find that you need to acquire a few new tools to get to know each other well enough to make a visit worthwhile. Both a web camera and a video camera are a great help in better understanding who another person really is, and what their life is like. Berlitz language learning software, and online translation guides are also useful to decipher what each of you is trying to say to the other.

A webcam will allow you to see one another as you converse. Facial expressions, body language, and cadence, tone, and volume of speech can give you a good deal of insight into what someone means to say, and provide clues as to how that person is feeling. A video camera is useful to record your daily life so that the other person can see what your home and workplace look like. You can introduce them to your friends and family via video, and they will be able to see where you hang out. You can tape your holiday celebrations, your pets or children doing cute things, or your irritating neighbor doing aggravating things, and send them along to your new friend to help cultivate a better understanding of the things you talk to her about. Narrate the video as you make it by saying short phrases like, “My dog Spot,” or “My apartment balcony.” Using simple sentences will help teach your friend your language while showcasing your life.

Berlitz tapes will help you learn the other person’s language, and they yours. When you are both simultaneously learning the language of the other person you will find that your communication challenges fade more quickly than if just one of you is trying to speak the other’s tongue. Translation websites will convert your typed message from your language to that of the other person. There are some problems with these sites, however, in that they make very literal translations, and don’t accommodate regional dialects. You may find you have said something you never intended to say when the translation misinterprets your language usage.

Whether talking with or writing to someone whose primary language is not the same as yours, avoid clichés, colloquialisms, slang, complex sentences, obscure words, and sarcasm. None of these are easy to translate, and are considered to be advanced language skills. Stick to basic language when communicating with someone who is having difficulty understanding you.

For some strange reason, it is common for people to speak louder when communicating with someone who is having trouble comprehending them. This sends the wrong message to the other person. You will sound angry, patronizing, impatient or rude if you use this strategy as an attempt to clarify your message. Speak clearly, slowly, and in low voice tones to help the other person hear each word you say distinctly.

When you cannot understand the other person because their use of English is broken, or heavily accented, ask them to repeat the word you cannot understand. If you still can’t understand the word after three tries, ask them to repeat the full sentence again using another word with a similar meaning. Never pretend to understand when you do not, and ask the other person to be honest with you in saying when they do and do not understand you. Pretending can have dire consequences, lead to grave misinterpretations, and evoke commitments to things that you never intended to commit to.

When you are getting to know someone for who English is a second language, let your feelings show in your facial expressions. Smile, frowns, tears and giggles are hard to misinterpret. On the other hand, gestures are easy to misinterpret. Many gestures have culturally specific meanings, and can send exactly the opposite message you intended to send. Keep gestures to a minimum unless you are using a commonly understood gesture like waving hello or goodbye.

Be aware of the fact that different cultures tend to place their words in different contexts. Context refers to how much you have to know before a conversation begins, and how much knowledge is shared during conversation. There are both low and high context cultures, and some cultures such as the culture of the United States, has a mix of both, depending on the region of the country that you visit, and the heritage of the people you are speaking with.

High Context Cultures

  • Use fewer words to convey meaning, much is implied
  • May exclude outsiders in subtle or direct ways
  • May communicate in neutral or non-emotional ways
  • May ascribe status (as opposed to achieving it)
  • Speakers direct themselves from the inside
  • Speakers tend to be high consideration and avoid interrupting
  • May use longer pauses in conversation
  • May avoid direct or immediate confrontation during conflict
  • History, tradition & inside jokes to give meaning to conversation
  • Use analysis and diffuse connection methods to process information
  • Examples are the French, Japanese, Native Americans, & Scandinavians
  • Use universal concepts as opposed to specific ones to guide thinking

Low Context Cultures

  • Use lots of words to convey meaning, much is specified
  • Include strangers by filling them in on everything
  • Tend to express emotion while conversing
  • May feel status is achieved, not ascribed
  • May “go with the flow” of conversation instead of following internals
  • Speakers tend to be high involvement & engage in overlapping speech
  • May engage immediately & directly in confrontations during conflict
  • Involve all in rule making & have few initial structures/traditions
  • Use specifying & synthesizing methods to process information
  • Examples are Americans, Southern Europeans, Africans, & South Americans
  • Use particular and specific concepts & models to guide thinking
  • If possible, try to vary your context to match the contextual usage of the person with whom you are attempting to communicate to increase the chances that your message will be understood.

Symbols, pictures, objects, body language, and commonly understood gestures can all be used to further clarify your meaning. You may even consider learning sign language, which is universal, to communicate with one another.

Seek out others in your own community who speak the same language as your new friend, and ask for their assistance in helping you to communicate with your far off friend. This is a way that you can learn about both the culture and language of your special person. Most immigrants are eager to share tales of their home country.

Learning to communicate with another across language barriers is a loving gesture that will provide proof of your honorable intentions to your prospective soul mate. Once the two of you feel you can communicate well enough to get to know one another on a deeper level, a visit may be in order.

Touch is another form of communication that can help advance a relationship. Hugs, hand holding, and cuddling will give you clues as to how another person is feeling and what they are thinking as well. The body language of love is fairly universal, and often speaks much louder and clearer than words.

Communicating across languages and cultures is a life enhancing experience that will help you and your friend to be more intelligent and feel more intelligent. Others will admire you for your bi-lingual abilities, and knowing how to speak more than one language may provide both personal and professional opportunities for you than were previously beyond your reach. Don’t let a small think like linguistics keep you from getting to know someone who may turn out to be the love of your life.

Personalized Baby Gifts & Baskets

Personalized Baby Gifts From the moment of considering to have a baby to the first moments of life your little angel plays their part. Their little red face is all scrunched up, and the sounds that voice from her puckered little mouth are the most precious notes you could ever hope for.

You ache any time the nurses take her for tests, and you deny offers from well meaning friends and family who offer to hold her while you get some sleep. All you want to do is be with your new baby, and you’ll forego food, water and sleep to do just that!

Ten fingers, ten toes, a rosebud mouth, and a turned up nose…Your new baby is nothing short of a miracle. As you watch them sleep, you think, I want to give them the perfect life… something they’ll cherish as much as I cherish them.At Cuddles ‘n Gifts, you can find that perfect gift.

Personalized blankets and lovies are destined to become your child’s constant companions. Baby gift baskets and Radio Flyer “Welcome Wagon” sets provide the new arrival with everything they need to feel loved. Baby book gift baskets satisfy baby’s curiosity and feed the imagination.

Need more than just a baby gift? Search our store for a charming gift to congratulate those new parents with! Whether pampering or celebratory, new parent gift baskets let Mom and Dad revel in their new status.

Babies don’t stay small for long, but Cuddles ‘n Gifts helps you catch the cuddles while you can!

Cuddles ‘n Gifts, an established online retail store, specializes in ‘Creating Worlds of Joy and Babies’ First Smiles!

In the United States of America, 3,000,000 babies are born each year and that number increases each sequential year by another half million. As a proud mother of two young children, a realization of the potential market and a dream to fulfill a niche in the gift industry, Lee-Anne Robert founded Cuddles ‘n Gifts in 2003. Since then, she has gained enormous pleasure from bringing happiness and joy to people’s lives through gift-giving.

In February 2004, Cuddles ‘n Gifts was proudly awarded the ‘Parenting Site Golden Seal’ from the American Baby Contest. The Parenting Site Gold Seal Award was established to recognize quality websites that are family friendly and are of interest and use to parents.

Cuddles ‘n Gifts’ gift line expanded in the spring of 2004 to include a wider selection of gifts for consumers to choose. The Company now offers an impressive selection of gift baskets and gifts for holidays and special occasions.

With a vast assortment of over 200 different gift selections ranging in price from $15 to $250, their online catalog is designed to meet the needs of every budget, taste and occasion. There is something for everyone!

Cuddles ‘n Gifts’ gift line expanded again in the fall of 2005 to include a nursery and parenting essentials including: strollers, car seats, cribs, basinets, and color coordinated boys and girls nursery furniture.

On January 2, 2008 Cuddles ‘n Gifts relocated to Carson City, Nevada.

Cuddles ‘n Gifts caters to new parents, family and friends for all your (their) baby needs.

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